Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Back 2 Blogging Day Two

As I told you yesterday, this week I'm participating in a blogging exercise. Hopefully, by the end of the week I will have gained some new skills and some focus that will help improve my blog.

- What posts have you debated writing because the topic made you feel vulnerable? There are two kinds of topics that make me feel vulnerable. I debate writing about current events and giving political opinions and I don't usually write negative things about specific people, particularly not about my husband's family members. The second is not because I feel vulnerable, but because it would invade their privacy. Trust me, there are things I would like to get off my chest, but I know it just wouldn't be right.

- How do you feel when you publish a post that is important to you? When a post is important to me, I get excited and hopeful. I get that anticipatory feeling, hopeful that my readers will read and comment.

- How long does it take to write a post like that? Most of my posts take from 2-4 hours to write. On a few occasions, I have spent as much as an entire day crafting a post to make sure it says exactly what I want it to say. And, sometimes I decide that I should "sleep on it" before I publish it.

- What is stopping you from publishing a post that makes you vulnerable?  Unlike many other bloggers, my hesitation is not that I want to avoid controversy or worry about offending readers. I think what I think and you think what you think and that's really okay with me. Honestly, my hesitation is that I don't want to come across as stupid or uninformed. On the few occasions that I do write these posts, I try to check, check, check and double-check my facts.

The rest of today's assignment is to re-post one of the posts that I wish had gotten more exposure. This was hard for me because I think several of my posts were pretty darn good. As of today I've been blogging for a year and I've written 142 posts. So there were a lot to choose from. I started by reviewing all of them and narrowed my selection down to the five entries that I think are best. I did ultimately choose one, but it was tough.

I've decided to re-post I Learned A Few Things From Those Baptist Ladies. It's about how opportunities for women have changed within my lifetime. Here it is in its entirety.

Grams was born in 1954. That makes me a baby boomer. I grew up in the sixties and came of age in the seventies. Mine was pretty much the last generation of women who didn't really expect to work. While many of us went to college, we thought we would marry, have babies and be stay-at-home moms. That didn't work out for most of us. We ended up juggling full-time jobs along with our traditional roles as wives and mothers.

As a baby boomer, I had a front row seat to the events of the last half of the 20th Century. I was in first grade when John Kennedy was elected president. I was 9 years old when he was assassinated. I learned to take cover under my desk during the Cuban Missile Crisis and I was only 8 years old when Marilyn Munroe died. I attended segregated schools until I was 10. I was 13 when Martin Luther King, Jr. was assassinated. I was 15 when Neil Armstrong took those first steps on the moon in the same year that all those "hippies" gathered at Woodstock. I was a senior in high school when the Israeli athletes were killed at the Munich Olympics. I watched as Watergate brought Richard Nixon's presidency to an early end. I remember when Saigon fell and the last marines left Vietnam. Burning bras and burning draft cards were beamed into my living room along with the race riots and anti-war protests of the sixties and my television set gave me a front row view.

Of all the changes that have taken place in my lifetime, in my humble opinion, the most important has been the changing role of women. The women of my mother's generation were the last of the old-fashioned "Mrs. Cleaver" type women who stayed home, made dinner and raised children. Today's young women don't realize that the opportunities they have were not available just a generation ago. They don't even have to think about it.

I'm definitely glad to have seen the liberation of women. Most women of my generation thought that if they did work for a few years it would be as a secretary, a nurse or a teacher. There were not a lot of other choices. Today's women can dream of being anything and can actually achieve those dreams. My daughter-in-law is a rig supervisor for a major oil company. She works on an oil rig in Canada where she supervises a crew of men. And if her pay and advancement in the company are any indication, she's damn good at it. Just a few years ago it would have been unheard of for any female to hold such a position. Yet she didn't even hesitate to go for the job she wanted.

I love to tell people that I was raised Southern Baptist, but I overcame it. Truth be told, I mostly say that to aggravate my mother, but religion is a topic for another day. What I want to say is that I learned some important things about how to be a woman from the ladies of the Baptist Church. And I worry that many of those traditional things are in danger of disappearing.

The ladies of the Baptist Church always took food to the house when someone died. They gave bridal and baby showers. They brought casseroles when someone was sick. They cleaned each others houses when one of them had a long-term illness. They hosted graduation teas. They babysat for each other and sat with sick parents. In short, they supported each other as only women can. I am afraid that these things are being lost in the brave new world of today's women. I'm even more concerned that these traditions are not being passed on to our daughters.

So next time you're invited to a bridal shower or baby shower, put on your Sunday best and take your daughter with you. When your neighbor has a new baby, take a casserole. When there's a death in the neighborhood, organize the neighbors to provide a meal. Host a tea for a girl you know who's graduating. Offer to babysit for a friend who needs a night out. Be there for other women and teach your daughters by your example.

With a lot of support from other women ... Grams made it. Let's make sure the next generation of women makes it too!

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  1. What great points. I never thought of it like that but yes, with busy lives, women are forced to prioritize which often prevents them from helping out in the community. Those are definitely lovely values to have grown up with.

  2. I really love your first paragraph...pointing out all of the major events of your child hood is fasinating to me, and it was written wonderfully.
    Secondly, as a working mom with 3 kids, things that don't immediately revolve around the kids our the house, go to the wayside...I great point to remember!!
    Thank you for stopping by Organzied Chaos! I really appreciate your comment!!
    Blessings, Monica

  3. I was born in 1972 and my mom brought me up to make cookies to welcome a neighbor, make a caserole for a family with an illness or death...and people don't appreciate it the way they used to, but I would continue to do it anyway!

  4. So glad you dropped by and enjoyed my little post...hehehe.

    I love what you said about teaching by example. It can be difficult in this flawed world, but I try, over and over, trying to shield my little ones, (ack! one is turning 13 next month!) and give them enough freedom to learn independence!

    Again, such an important season of my life and such an amazing journey! Take care! :)